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how the **** do I deselect the face of a object? maybe it's the wrong term, I don't care. but when I open Edit Mode and click on the face select I will get the blacked out/shaded thing on the face I want to extrude. but after I right click to any face I can't seem to get the blacked part away, only move it. so what should I do?
as this indicates the active face in contrast to selected faces, it is important for modelling to have it distinguishable. There is no setting to disable that "pattern". But it could be added rather easily, but what for?
I'm sitting, waiting, wishing, building Blender in superstition...